Unclued, if your live cells appear random after following the process of deaths and births, that's not a good sign. The live cells should spell the name of the game. Remember that the process is not a progressive, or sequential, one, but rather it is applying the rules of deaths and births to a snapshot of the starting point (which was my initial warning). After discussion with Crosswhit, and repeating part of the process I followed on Saturday, I don't think a further iteration of the process is required.
Barretter, for the 4th word of the message, think 'letters'. Look in the grid for all the letters of the 6th word.