I agree Ros and Elle, and this is why we must be so careful in our choice of words - When replying to a post, we (or I at least) tend to say whatever first comes to our head, without reflecting too much, and as you say, with no body language to help, these words might be interpreted the wrong way.
Hope it all sorts itself out soon, and meanwhile it is up to us to keep this thread going - it answers a need for those among us who depend on what it offers in the way of virtual comradship.