No. kinky - the Listener in the title is nothing to do with the dinner, but I guess that this puzzle appeared this weekend deliberately. Nimrod is the IQ editor. IA and 6A are special lights, but that won't become apparent until you've solved them (not giving too much away, I hope).
The def in 1A is the last word. In 6A it's the first 4 words, and there's a bit of &lit going on too.
I have now spent far too long on getting the 7th word, hag even been reduced to trying homophones (as possibly suggested by the gimmick). Do the words "to facilitate such activity" get me anywhere? No. I need a real hint please!