As I too commented and to a point singled you out Chorley (though only in regard to the dig at answerers, I feel they should be left out of this) - it is an age old problem and will never be resolved to the satisfaction of all.
What is sad to see here is things getting personal and mentions of what he/she said /did on another site - I see no need for that at all.
We quizzers are a funny lot ( well I am funny full stop - but that's another story) and we hold our favourite quizzes close , best that I try is to point out closing dates if they are far away and setters wishes if stated - after that it is up to the individual.
Please don't fall out about this.