From what I've seen of this website, most posts just discuss the clues & answers rather than attack the people behind them by calling them an idiot.
If a discussion seems pedantic or even patronising to you, that's your outlook. Cryptic crosswords are pedantic almost by definition.
I hope you can sense that I'm not a happy bunny at the moment but I also don't really want to continue this with you as I don't think the discussion is worth it.
So ... good luck in whatever you do.